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RE: I'm really worried I wont get to goal..

ready to roll — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 09:41:18 GMT

Oh I was feeling for you big time reading the beginning of this post, just wanted to give you a big hug.

Then I read your last weight loss and WOW, you are defiantley back on track. This was good news and made me smile for you.

Sammy I think you are going to do fine, battles or no battles you sound like a very strong young lady, and from your pics a pretty one too.

Go get that goal darl.

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Vic — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 09:00:33 GMT

Hi Sammy,

Great to see that you're back on track again & have your head back in the right place, I knew that you would do it. Your progress has been so inspiring to me I know that you are going to be the most beautiful bride, but more importantly, you will have a happier, healthier life.

Keep strong,

Vic

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Jodes66 — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 08:41:26 GMT

You can do it Sammy, you have done so well already.

When you have more than a few kg to lose and you have to follow any program for an extended period of time, it is never going to be easy going all the way.

We all hit bumps in the road, just take it easy on yourself and know that even if you do fall off the wagon, you can get back on anytime you want too.

Good weight loss in a couple of days :D

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sammymac — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 04:30:07 GMT

Thankyou everyone for your well thought out replies!

I do sneak weighs every other day, just to make sure I'm on track! I reckon if I hadn't weighed today, and seen my amazing loss, I probably would have snuck one of my mans KFC chips! I think that weighing in keeps me focused!

I'm not trying to lose 'as much as possible' every week.. I'm just wanting to make sure I get to goal on time.. Thankfully, I am on target so far! :) BTW, everyone is doing so well on this program!! I'm so happy you've hit that 30kg mark Jessicah!! :D

Thankyou again people.. :)

Your support means so much to me! :)

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glamnfab — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 23:13:38 GMT

I agree with Jessicah! could not have said it better myself! and Sammy, although I don't have a wedding coming up (Yes I've been reading around the forum! lol congrats :P), I still put so much pressure on myself. I have some 27kgs to go and as I loose weight I keep having to remind myself that all will not be lost if I don't loose all the weight within the 6 month period! *sigh*

Btw, I totally sympathize with you for sneaking in a weigh in. I have digi scales at home and I take a look every other day!! I have to tell you, it is NOT good all the time! sometimes the weight goes up (understandably after I've eaten something, which makes me wonder why I do it anyway?) lol

anyways, sorry for this somewhat pointles post! good luck and Congrats again! and also congrats for the 1.8 kg loss!!

*Zeenat*

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Jessicah — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 21:55:30 GMT

Hey Sammymac

I can really sympathise with how you're feeling. We started loosing weight at about the same time, so I always keep an eye out for your weigh ins, as you've really been a big motivator to me. Especially in the beginning! If you lost a certain amount one week then I'd make it my aim to lose the same amount (quite often impossible with your great losses! Although it gave me something to focus on!)

I know that personally I'm worried that I won't reach goal, and that what's worse, if I do reach goal, I'll just fall into bad habits again.

I find myself binging sometimes, and it's really not healthy. Like you, I've gone great guns in the first few months and lost quite a bit, but then the past 2 months have been very slow going...I know I could go much much much better!

I think because we lost so much so quickly, there's that pressure put on us (from ourselves no less!) to keep up the massive losses and get to goal very quickly. I almost think that some weeks I choked - I couldn't handle the pressure of losing so much so quickly.

Also, I'm worried that post-Tf I wont be able to stay on the straight and narrow. And I've come to realise that if I keep this pressure on myself then I most certainly wont be able to! I'm still quite young, so I go out on weekends, and I used to be so hard on myself if I was naughty (having normal wine instead of dry, or whatever), but now I realise that it's just a part of my life and I need to make my diet suit that. I don't mean that I scoff down whole pizzas or anything with my mates (like they do!) but if I am a little naughty then I don't beat myself up about it - I take away the pressure. And yeah, I think it's definitely helped me with my mindset.

This is about a lifestyle change, not a race to lose as much as possible every week. So maybe you need to stop looking at the numbers so closely (sneaking weigh ins etc) and start looking at the bigger picture? Although, sneaking weigh ins is helpful for keeping on track on days where it gets hard (if I'm craving something bad - at the moment it's a tin of spaghetti, random i know! -I do weigh in at home to remind myself of how awesome I've been going and that the treat - the spaghetti - is not worth it...and yeah, it helps).

Anyways, the point of this long rant is that you need to stop putting so much pressure on yourself and if you just take everything as it comes then I'm sure you'll do fabulously.

:)

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miss_donna — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 19:59:04 GMT

well done sammy that 700grams is your in just a couple of days. stay stong just think of that 700grams and it should keep you on track.

stick at it youve been a huge insparation for myself when i first started! and now iv made goal and you will 2.

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sammymac — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 17:43:18 GMT

Thankyou everyone for all your replies! :)

I am feeling a lot better today cos I snuck in a weigh!!! And the scales read 101.1kg!! Thats a huge step down from 2 days ago when I weighed 102.9kg! 1.8kg in just 2 days.. it must all be fluid still!!! I'm 700gm away from 30kg lost, and 1.2kg away from DD!!! WOOHOO!!!!!!!

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Mrs M — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 20:00:04 GMT

Sammy you have had a stressful time lately - it is not surprising that you are struggling. Talking all this out with someone who doesn't know what has been happening could help a lot. Doesn't have to be a counsellor as such sometimes offloading with someone 'new' is very theraputic.

You have lost so much as everyone has said, but you so close to double digits. If you focus and take your journey a day at a time you will be in double digits soon and that will give you a huge lift.

Take care Sammy and good luck.

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ShimmiGirl — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 17:47:13 GMT

You can do it Samantha... I agree its hard when you're finding it difficult to see the motivation.. but girl.. for your motivation just look at the pictures of yourself in your signature... you have to agree that you are looking damn fine compared to how you looked before TF.. and by keeping yourself in line again - the way you did at first.. wow.. you are going to knock 'em dead when you walk down that aisle next May.. you are such a pretty girl and at goal you are going to be absolutely stunning. So whenever those cravings seem to be winning... look at yourself in the mirror..see how far you've come already and push that craving away.. I'll say it again.. I have faith in you Samantha... you can do it! :D

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zackcat — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:31:21 GMT

Sammy - I'm sorry to hear you are feeling a bit flat and despondant.....it's never any fun.

I think you need to take all the advice people have given you and importantly just do 1 day at a time. Stop stressing out about the wedding - you know it is not far away, but perhaps you need to start taking small steps.

The visualisation suggestion sounds fab - it had me drifting off and feeling the sunny beach while I was reading it! Give it a go and see how it makes you feel?

And give yourself a huge pat on the back - you have almost lost 30k!! That is HUGE!!! You know what needs to be done and you obviously know how to do it as you've inspired a lot of us with your amazing progress so far.

You can do it girl - we are all barracking for you :D

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slim sim — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:17:24 GMT

Oh my god Sammy, you're freakin me out!!! Stop!!!;)
Seriously, you will get through this. It's a hurdle, and you can get over it. I bet you have done it before and you will have to do it again, for sure. Dont give up on yourself now though. You have come to far.

I suggest you practice some serious visualisation. Take 5 minutes out of your day to lie on your back, maybe under a blanket. Close your eyes and breathe deeply. Now imagine yourself on your wedding day. The sun is shining right on you and it's warm. You are wearing the wedding dress of your dreams, and it fits like a glove. You are tanned, slim and toned. You have gorgeous makeup and hair and everyone is looking at you and marvelling at how transfomed, beautiful and glowing you look. Now go a little deeper. Explore how you feel about yourself in this moment. Imagine the incredible deep sense of acheivement and pride that you are relishing in because you look, and feel so wonderful. Now just hold those visions and feelings for a couple of minutes as you just lie there relaxing and deep breathing (in nose - out mouth)

I realise this may sound a bit airy fairy, but that's not me at all. I have an aquaintence who's a hypnotherapist and meditation coach and she kindly taught me a few tricks. I have also done a bit of reading on the subject of the power of positive thought and creative visualisation. I have learned that the mind can't differentiate between a real and an imagined experience. The best explaination I heard was how fictional movies can stir up emotions and effect the mind, even though we conciously know it's actors and not real. We can be as distressed as much by something we see in a movie as we are by something we see in the news. Trust me, it works. Just try it once each day and as your drifting into sleep for a week and tell me it hasn't helped:)

Keep going sammy, just one week at a time. NEVER EVER GIVE UP. You have just as much right to be slim as ANY ONE else.

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quilter — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:04:10 GMT

Whoops, dumb me, you are already involved in a challenge, so sorry......no carbs for the brain is all I can put it down to.....

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quilter — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:00:30 GMT

Hi Sammymac,

I know how you feel, I seem to be taking two steps forward and one step back at the moment. However, look at your achievement overall and it's good. Also, if you had not been trying to lose weight for these past few weeks just imagine what you would have put on!! The emotional eating is something we all struggle with, it's a matter of learning what else you can turn to for comfort, you will work it out and when you do it will be soooo good because you will have overcome a major hurdle and learnt something that is going to keep you on track for the rest of your life.

I see that some others are having success with 'challenging' each other, do you think somehting like that might help? You will get there as long as you don't give up. Also, spring is coming and that should help a lot. Take good care of yourself,

Andrea

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ksim — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 12:44:49 GMT

Sammy, you've had such a bad time lately and your weight has gone up and down quite dramatically. You say you turn to food when times get tough... is it possible to focus elsewhere and learn a new habit? If you decided to turn to exercise for the adrenalin rush, it would be such an improvement. Most of us either do now or have comfort eaten in the past... it is really difficult to get over. But you can do it. You have a terrific goal, your wedding, coming up and I know you want to have big losses by then.

I understand exactly where you are coming from and how you are feeling about yourself, questioning yourself... but your motives are good, Sammy, and you have proven that you can do it by previous losses. Take one day at a time, one meal at a time and you'll get there. Good luck. Cheers, Kim.:)

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Ace Trace — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 12:25:54 GMT

Come on Sam, you know you can finish this. I know you have had some set backs, but remember how good you felt week after week when the weight was coming off....well I know you want that feeling again!

You WILL make goal by your wedding, I know you will. Once you see those double digits you will be inspired Im sure.

Hugs
Trace xx

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sammymac — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 12:12:31 GMT

Thankyou.... you know, If I didnt have a wedding coming up, I reckon I'd be much slower at losing weight!!! :P

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nikkimaloo — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 11:52:00 GMT

[quote][b]BrightOne (20/08/2008)[/b][hr]You DO know how to do it. [/quote]

Agreed! Sammy, look how far you have come -- almost 30kg and that is quite an achievement! :D:D

I do know how you feel though, I feel like I'm never going to get to goal sometimes, but I just push on and continue, because I'd never forgive myself if I gave up :)

Keep going Sammy, you can do it, and you will - and you will be a stunning bride come May I am sure!

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BrightOne — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 11:49:40 GMT

You DO know how to do it. Focus on your goals and muster all your strength and determination to working towards those. Remember how good it has felt to be losing weight, and how bad you are feeling now. Take small steps - get through 1 week, then another and another. Don't let your old habits get the better of you!

Can you maybe go and talk to a counsellor or something to help you work though the really tough things that have been happening lately?

You inspire so many people on this program. You do have the strength within you, you just need to find it again!!

Good luck - you can do it.

I'm really worried I wont get to goal..

sammymac — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 11:29:41 GMT

Hi everyone..

I've had a really hard time lately.. I've been sick and in hospital a couple of months ago, and I've had to watch my best friend go through something that you wouldn't wish upon anyone.

Everytime I've been hit down, I've turned to food... its been my comfort in my time of need.. This has caused quite a few set backs.. Back in the beginning of June I weighed 107.4kg.. thats only 5kg more than right now... so in the past 2 months, I have only lost 5kg.. and I know I could've done way better than that. I just found it so hard to get back on track each time. Its really bugging me knowing that I probably would've been in DD now, and had lost 30 something kgs.

Also, I am beginning to crave things.. simple things like a ham cheese and salad sandwich.. I am actually struggling to get through each day at the moment.. I am worried that I wont make my goal weight before my wedding on 2nd May next year... I am half way to goal after 28 weeks. 28 weeks from now is the end of february.. but will I get to goal by then? I feel like i'm way behind... I also want to make my mini goal of 40kg lost by the 15th of November.

I just don't know how to do it anymore..