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Supreme Being
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HI guys.
Just wanted to have some people to chat about and ask opinions. Really hard to ask anyone of my friends and family as they are all bias.
I am having trouble at the minute. I have three children from a previous marriage. I have remarried and we have a beautiful 8 month old. My husband works away two weeks on and two weeks off. We need to for the money it pays excellent.
What my frustration is my ex has re married and lives in Fiji. He quit his job last april to movethere because that is where his wife was working. Basically he told me he doesn't want to have to pay maintenance. In his previous job he earned over $100,000 so maintenance was high. I did put what I didn't need for the kids in an account for them when older.
Basically he has told me he is "Studying" for the next six to seven years. I am really getting frustrated because he flys the kids to and from Fiji for holidays and comes over here and takes them to hotels and away buys them stuff. I feel as if it is a good cop bad cop situation. My husband is annoyed that he has to be away from his daughter and is not able to buy and do certain stuff because he is paying for other kdis. ( He loves them like his own) just annoyed at their dad that he can do that. I have asked for money but he isn't working and doesn't have any money!!!!! Yeah I know how can he afford everything, that's what I want to know. Basically his new wife pays for everything, she is a psychologist you think she would now better. They met at work!! Hence i was on my own with three kids.
Basically people are telling me to stop the kids seeing him unless he can help support them. I am not sure as I don't want the kids to be affected by this.
I was wondering if you guys have any opinion?
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I think it would be a good idea for you to give child support agency a ring and see if they can suggest any avenues you can explore. Being a parent is about having responsibility and even when a relationship breaks down, the responsibility for the children should be shared, financially and otherwise between both parents. Unfortunately this is not the case which is why agencys like child support exist. Obviously he can afford airfares, hotels expensive outings etc but what about contributing to the basics like food, clothes, school ,health care etc He has landed his share of the financial responsibilities on to you and indirectly to your husband and your "larger family unit". Possibly even ring womens legal service for a free phone consult to explore your options. They have a roster of solicitors who provide a free consult to you over the phone and will discuss options from a legal point. Hope thishelps.
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Supreme Being
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| I am really sorry to say that under law the children have the right to see there father and he has the right to be in there lives. Him paying child support or not will not impact on him being allowed to see the children. If you stopped them seeing him he would have the right to take you to court to have court ordered visits. I am not saying this because its right I am saying it because of the work I do and I know this information. I know its not what you want to hear personally i think any man who does not stand up to his responsibility for his OWN children is a lowlife. Unfortunatly the law doesnt see it that way. Still try child support they will investigate however there is a few loopholes and he may just have found one
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Supreme Being
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Thank you so much I really appreciate you taking the time to reply.
I will look into things.
Hugs to you both
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